Saturday, January 22, 2011

Blast from the Past

Note: Names have been changed to protect the guilty and the innocent.

If I'm going tell a story I might as well tell the truth.

So there I was minding my own business checking my Yahoo Mail when all of a sudden I see Kent on the IM contact toolbar. There I sat stunned and said out loud to myself, "Oh my God! I thought I deleted him." While looking at the screen, I tried to figure out what to do.

Kent is my ex boyfriend if you're wondering. We met May 17, 2010 during our training shift for a new restaurant location opening for May 24, 2010. He was going to be working in the Deli while I was going to be working on the floor as a waitress.

The first day of training I noticed him right away. There he stood 6 foot tall, kissable lips, almond shaped eyes, and his complexion was to die for. I couldn't help but sneak a few glances at him. Kent was fine! And I wanted him bad. The only problem was that I was in a relationship so that made him permanently off limits. I could tell by the freshness of his skin that he was a few years younger than me. By how many years? That had to be found out. Mental note to self: Not interested in young guys. Immure and have nothing to offer. With that mental note stored, I changed my thinking process.

However, that didn't stop me from glancing at him the entire time. I mean, I was sitting in the booth two rows behind his table. I couldn't help but glance in his general direction considering how all the trainers, managers, and owners were standing directly in front of him talking to us. So how else was I supposed to keep my eyes off him? So, hey. I wasn't in complete stalker mode.

We made little interaction that day. We spoke very few words during or lunch break but that was it. Outside of that, nothing. After our shift was over, I headed to my vehicle. During the process of airing out all of the unwanted dry heat out of my SUV (may she rest in peace) I notice someone drive up behind me and stop. I looked out. It was Kent. He smiled, waved, then drove off. Hmm...that had me thinking. But I abruptly stopped whatever it was I was entertaining and drove over to my boyfriend, Juan's, apartment.

During the second day of training I couldn't hide from him. I had much of no choice. We were both in the same training group together. By the end of our shift he asked me for my number. I politely told him "No." and tried to distract him from his request, but my methods failed me miserably. He grabbed my phone from off the table and put his number in it.

By the next day we were practically good friends seeing as how we were texting the night before. During our down time we played a few computer games. It was his bright idea to bring his laptop to work for that purpose. By the end of our shift that day I knew just how into me he was. The feeling was mutual.

I broke the news to him that me and Juan broke up. The look on his face was priceless. Just a little FYI: The break up had nothing to do with Kent. Things just ended up happening that way. Anyhoo, throughout our entire shift he was practically stuck to my hip. I couldn't walk two feet without him being right behind me. After our shift he invited me to go to the DMV with him. That turned out to be the beginning of the madness...

While inside the DMV you would have thought that we've known each other for years. Our bond and chemistry was off the charts! The topic: Sex. 'Nough said. After leaving the DMV and returning to the empty restaurant parking lot in the scorching Arizona heat we had little to nothing left to do other than to put our heads together and come up with a plan. We didn't want to go our separate ways so us being as into each other as we were, we pretty much came to the same conclusion. We both decided to go across the street to the mall to spend the remainder of our time together.

To kill some time we walked around, sat on the big comfy couch, walked around some more, wound up in Spencer's looking at what other than sex toys and what-not, and then I had a light bulb moment. "I have a taste for a Mai Tai. We should go to Kona Grill." Being new to the state, he didn't know what Kona Grill was, so I had to school him on it. We both found out that we both shared another common element; we both shared a love for seafood and the wonderfulness that is Sushi.

We spoke over California and Atlantic Rolls, Mai Tai, and a huge Brownie dessert that we both shared. Everything was bliss. During our little spontaneous date I learned that there was a three year age gap between us. But I didn't see any mind in being older than he was seeing as how I had no intentions of being his girlfriend. Our sex conversation made it's way back into the mix and I have to admit, I have not been so sexually attracted to anyone in my life other than Andrae. He's another ex of mine. The only difference with him was that we spent 8 1/2 years together. Alright. Enough about him. Back to Kent.

There was an obvious attraction between us. He knew it and I knew it but neither one of wanted to come out and say it. We learned a lot about each other. We had loads in common. Lunch was over and done with and suddenly there was nothing to do again. We looked at each other "Now what do we do?". The only option we had was to see a movie. While in the lobby waiting for the auditorium to clear we started doing some experimenting that lead to a kiss. Or first kisses I should say. Just thinking about it now brings a smile to my face. He was good! He was so good.

We spent our last three hours watching The Back-Up Plan starring Jennifer Lopez. Don't judge us. Nothing else was out and he had already seen everything else. So watching J. Lo on the silver screen was acceptable. However, there wasn't much watching goin' on if you know what I mean. Ok...maybe you don't. But who cares? We had a good time. After the movie was over we finally accepted that we had to part ways. It was after 9PM and there definitely wasn't anything left to do. We shared a last deep kiss good night and we drove separately into the night.

No work. No play. All business. Come to think about it. I hadn't heard from Kent all that day and I was very bitter over it.

No work again. I had stopped thinking about him and moved on to better thoughts. Thanks to my selective memory I had totally forgotten about what happened two days before and I stopped thinking about him completely until...I randomly received a text from Kent that afternoon. Little did I know how much my life would change just by replying to his message. He came over to visit later that day for a few hours. That few hours turned into four days. In that four day period he managed to have his gym shoes on to my closet floor, clothes hanging on my hangers, toothbrush in my toothbrush cup, hair care and facial care in my bathroom drawers and cabinets, food in my refrigerator and a permanent parking spot on my street. That four days then turned into a month (on and off). I was astonished! Dude had really made himself comfortable.

All of that happiness we shared from that first week we were together went from "I love you!" to "I CAN'T STAND YOU!!!" all in the matter of four months. After the good phase of our relationship passed we found out that we really weren't meant to be. We were both Leo's for one (birthdays being four days apart). Two, he only wanted to be with me when he found it convenient for him. For example: if he's over at my place he'd give me his undivided attention. But the moment he stepped outside these four walls, got inside of his car and dove off, it was like he was a completely different person. He didn't call. He didn't text. He didn't sign on to Y! Messaging. He didn't Skype. He didn't respond to his Facebook inboxes. I was basically nobody to him unless he wanted to come over. After a while I got tired of putting up with his bullshit and I began throwing away his things. He caught on to what I was doing and he ended up removing what ever items of his that remained. And, finally three, he was moving back home to Baltimore, Maryland. The grey cloud above our heads about him having to move back home brought our relationship to a screeching halt and it was one of the major contributors that tore us apart in the beginning of our relationship.

So there I sat in front of the computer screen trying to figure out what to do. Luckily, I was signed on as invisible. No one had any idea I was signed on. Especially him...until I selected Available on the drop box just to see what he would do.

"Heeey." he said.
"Hey, Nova." I replied.

We had a three minute conversation that made me remember exactly why we broke up and stopped talking for months. The last time we spoke was October 2010. One month after we broke up. After that little IM pow-wow I gladly deleted him from my contacts list. He's an ass with a capital A-S-S.

I swear can't stand my exes! Ugh!


  1. Sometimes it's just about the attraction I suppose! Good thing you noticed early though, it sucks a lot more if you only notice the guy is an ass and totally wrong for you really late in the game.

  2. Hey, Bitch Waiter :)

    Athena, thanks. I know. But thankfully for me my Nana was there to see right through him. I'm really good at reading people too but she knew he was up to no good practically right away. As for me, I knew he was no good, I just wasn't ready to let him go

  3. Sometimes you just don't want to see it, I know all about that unfortunately. Hope you'll meet a great guy soon, one who doesn't let you down!

  4. My love life is so schizo. It's a never ending story. I haven't givin up. I know I'll find my happiness.

    Thanks for commenting. I didn't think anyone out there was reading my blog

  5. I know how you feel, my lovelife is pretty messed up too at the moment. And you will! never give up. And you're welcome, eventually there's always someone who will fall upon your blog and like it :)

  6. Thanks :)

    Stay tuned. More blogs to come


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